“There is a quiet strength in us Congolese women. We lean on each other, and we will be OK.”
I’ve given birth seven times in my life. Each pregnancy has its own story, and each experience has left a lasting impression on me, imprints on my body, and effects on my health.
Four of my children were born prematurely, which were scary experiences for our family. Thankfully they survived those first weeks, their tiny fingers and toes holding onto life.
My last pregnancy turned into an emergency c-section that almost killed me. I remember the doctor at the public hospital telling me not to get pregnant again because of the risk to my health, but the staff dissuaded me from getting permanent contraception when I asked for it.
My husband and I have also adopted a boy, making it eight children that we’re raising. He is the son of my sister who went missing some years ago, and needed a loving home that we were glad to give.
My big family, on top of having my own business to bring in some money, keeps me very busy. Earlier this year I became pregnant again. I had to stop working, the discomfort and strain on my body was immediate and disorienting. I felt I was almost dying.
That’s when I remembered a woman from MSI we call our Big Sister, who comes around to chat to us about reproductive health. I knew there was a network of people who help women in my situation.
I reached out in desperation, and they helped me see a healthcare professional about an abortion.
My husband reassured and supported me in doing this – he knew this pregnancy was putting my life in danger. My family need me. And I didn’t want another child.
I was afraid. But the provider welcomed me and explained everything to me. I chose a surgical abortion and everything went well. I went home the same day, ate and regained my strength. My husband helped me recover and follow the recommendations after the procedure.
Today, I’m in good health and I’m so grateful for the help I received, which saved me in many ways. So, on top of running my business and taking care of my children, I’ve added another role to my life: being part of my local abortion referral network.
Women and girls can come to me, and I’ll guide them towards safe health services and options.
There is a quiet strength in us Congolese women. When we’re informed, we can protect ourselves. So our network shows people there are solutions and there is safety. We lean on each other, and we will be OK.
